BE CREATIVE

Thruought our lives we must be creative. We ARE creative whether we realize it or not.
How creative we are is determined by us. Creativity is the basis for all that exists. Everything was created. How can we apply that to self renewal? Sometimes you have to recreate yourself. If you don’t like who you are, what you are, how you are, change it. That’s what this series has been about. Create the best you that you can. You have been given this foundation and inspiring palette! Think about the fact that everything that happens in our lives and everyone that comes thru or into our lives has an influence on the person we become. Since that is the case, how can we allow others to create who we are and not have input ourselves? Something to ponder, huh? We can essentially become whoever we want but most of us just want to be our best possible. There is a saying that goes, “Necessity is the mother of invention.” We invent out of necessity. Now I have one, “Creation is the child of intention and dedication.” Intention and dedication have to marry in order to create. Intending is not enough. Dedication is not enough. However if you apply both you can be virtually unstoppable. Be who you want to be. It’s the one thing you don’t have to dream of. You can make it a reality. Not someone else but your version of YOU. Do not confuse what you look like, how much money you have or even what your occupation is with WHO YOU ARE. It is not the same thing. Who you are is what you are from the inside of your being; the type of person you are, what you believe, your values and what you hold so dear that you would fight for it. It is how you deal with those outward aforementioned things. That is the creation that matters most. I wholeheartedly believe that we were created by the best to be the best. It’s up to us what we do with it. May your journey lead you to your rejuvenation and inspiration and to being a person that YOU love. May your creation shine and illuminate the way for others; which leads into my next series: SHINE

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TIME TO GET MOTIVATED!

Now that you have been evaluating…….what have you learned about yourself? What have you decided to get rid of? Did you evaluate from where all of the thoughts, emotions and realities you hold originate? Before you renovate you have to become motivated. If you are participating in this self-renewal project you are probably somewhat motivated but renovation takes a lot of time, energy and resources. You may start off strong but the task will inevitably take its toll. Lets discuss ways to become and stay motivated.

The strongest catalyst for motivation is desperately wanting a change. It is even stronger than needing one. Needing change doesn’t always motivate us and it sometimes even stifles us. Often we are not motivated to change until we absolutely must. However when we want a change and can no longer live with the ‘status quo’, our motivation begins.

1. We can stay motivated by setting small goal or milestones to reach the big goal. Whether our mission is to lose weight, get rid of emotional baggage or accomplish a new achievement, the meal must not be devoured but consumed in small bites.

2. A reminder of the goal in full view, figuratively and literally. Whether it is a picture, a note or whatever triggers your desire to have results.

3. ( This one may surprise you) Don’t share your goal with too many people. Keep it on a ‘need to know’ basis. Besides people that are actively involved in helping you reach your goal, no one needs to be in on this. People have a way of knowingly or subconsciously sabotaging you and if you get off track, discouraging words can deflate your excitement.

4. Live in the moment. Try not to look too far ahead. It can be overwhelming. Enjoy each small victory and embrace the journey.

5. Set up a plan, put it in writing and sign it. Take yourself seriously. Set reminders on your phone or computer. Give yourself small rewards along the way. For every milestone, congratulate yourself. Most importantly, If you digress, forgive yourself and keep going.

* The author of this blog is not a physician. The statements mentioned above are merely suggestions and should only be used as inspiration. Do not substitute this information for doctor’s care or professional therapy.

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5 Steps of Self Evaluation

Before you start to renovate you must evaluate. You cannot or better yet should not renovate without an assessment of what you have, what you need to get rid of and what you can repurpose.
Before I list the 5 let me share this with you:

A close friend and I have an ongoing dialogue about change. My argument is that if you want change you have to go thru a degree of discomfort. This holds true whether it is minuscule or grandiose; for example: if you are lying in bed and you want to change positions, while changing positions you will have a level of discomfort. Your physicality will more than likely determine the degree of discomfort. If you are fit and have no injuries the discomfort level will be minor, possibly even undetectable but there is some level of stress on your body because of movement. That being said, when we make changes, the more dire our situation is and depending on how drastic the change, it is going to be very uncomfortable. If you have surgery to make some type of improvement to self, the transformation process and recovery is quite uncomfortable. However the results are what makes it worth it. If you are making changes emotionally then there will be painful emotions to deal with but on the other side is clarity, sense of purpose and well-being. The bottom line is that you cannot change and have positive results without going thru pain and discomfort. Trying to change without discomfort is like looking at a jewelry box and expecting it to open and for the jewelry to adorn you on it’s own; impossible. If you want those enhancements you must do the work.

Allowing fear to paralyze you will get you nothing. Being courageous will get you everything. Notice that I said allowing fear to paralyze you. You can be afraid. You just can’t let it stop you. The longer you put off self-evaluation and transformation, the more time you waste not living your best life. If fear is paralyzingly you, start slowly but the worst thing you can do is to be still. You cannot keep doing the same thing and expect different results. On your journey to the best you be determined to step outside of your comfort zone and and widen your scope as to what you think is doable. You can do just about anything you want. You just have to want it enough.

Self-evaluation
1. Determine who you truly are. Be honest with yourself about who you feel you are as a person, your strengths, your weaknesses and your personality. This will not work unless you are totally honest with yourself.

2. Determine what your image is. Self image is exactly what it says; who you imagine you are or aspire to be. How do you want to portray yourself. This is not a pretense or facade. It is an enhancement and projection of your true self.

3. Ask someone close to you to give you an honest assessment of your personality traits, habits and attitudes. It is okay to ask someone that truly knows you; for example a parent, sibling or close friend. There are some aspects of our personalities that we don’t see clearly. Sometimes the unbiased opinion from someone that knows us well and has known us for a long time will help round out a self-evaluation but remember that you know the most about yourself and your inner feelings and experiences. So use this information as a reference and comparison to your own thoughts. Don’t rely on anyone else’s opinion completely.

4. Determine what is absolutely necessary in your life; things that you feel you cannot live without.
This includes objects and feelings. Then ask your self why. Write them down because if you cannot give a clear reason for wanting these things in your life, you probably don’t need them. Go back over the list and write down what brought the objects into your life and what circumstances caused the emotions. A) Objects and emotions that help you to be the best you. B) determine where they came from or how they came about.

5. Repeat number 4 but this time decide which objects and emotions you no longer need. A) the objects and emotions that are keeping you from becoming your best you B)Determine where they came from or how they came about.

Allow yourself to ponder these things. Remember that a journey can only be taken one step at a time. *

* The author of this blog is not a physician. The statements mentioned above are merely suggestions and should only be used as inspiration. Do not substitute this information for doctor’s care or professional therapy.

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Self~Evaluation Breeds ~ Motivation ~ Creation ~ Innovation ~ Renovation

In an effort to better yourself, it is necessary to self-evaluate. Examine yourself and decide what needs to be changed or tweaked, what needs to be enhanced and what needs to be totally done away with. To become your best y-o-u; you must examine yourself, your intentions, desires, true feelings and needs. This self examination requires honest and raw emotional and physical discovery. It may involve dealing with issues from the past or present. This more than likely will not be pleasant, but the results will be. Think of it as cleansing or purifying. If inanimate objects in our lives such as cars, computers and appliances require maintenance, why wouldn’t we need that even more so. Although it is true that living beings and things have the ability to self regenerate or renew, it is still important to do this manually. Why? Think about your computer. Thru technology this insensate object periodically updates and gets rid of or recycles excess information. However sometimes we have to or choose to manually remove files. We have the option to remove what we no longer need or want.

Maintenance is extremely important as well. everything including self has to be maintained otherwise it will break down, stop functioning properly and disintegrate. Realization of one’s true self is only achieved thru examination, maintenance and renewal. Next time I will share with you my thoughts on this process of self-evaluation that leads to motivation ~ creation ~ innovation and ~ renovation.

By T. Michelle Jacobs